Have you ever had a really good friend that things just all of a sudden ended with? Things were going good then all of a sudden it was like neither of you could make the effort to keep in touch anymore?
I have drifted away from a few friends like this in the last couple years. I know that things don't always stay the same and that people change, but lately I've been feeling like these people think they are so far above me that I'm not worth their effort. I know that our lives all take different directions. We get married, or have kids, or heaven forbid, both of the above... But WHY? Why do things have to change?
Maybe in my own way I'm being to stubborn to make the first move in reconnecting. I think that they should be the ones to make the effort. I just feel so awkward about the whole "drifting apart" situation that I don't even know where to begin. The thing is, I miss these people. I think about them often. I ask our mutual friends about them. I don't know why but it just so happens that I'm too bull headed to pick up the phone and make the first call. I don't know what I'm so afraid of. Maybe rejection? Maybe the fact that these people really don't want to be my friend. I don't know. What I do know, is that I'm sorry that this bout of silence has gone on for this long. I'm sorry if I did something wrong. I'm sorry if you didn't think I was supportive enough or there for you when you needed me. The fact is, I needed you too. I know a lot has gone one in all of our lives in the last couple years but the fact is.... I MISS YOU and I hope that things don't go on like this forever!
I have had that happen with a few friends. I always end up being the one "fixing" things and I decided no more.BUT, I recently decided I'd send her a little message (after almost a year of not bothering with her) via facebook, only to realize she'd dropped me as a friend.
ReplyDeleteIt's hard when friendships die, but I think that it can be a good thing sometimes (like romantic relationships, not all friendships are meant to be forever) They are great while you have them and remember them for their best, but sometimes they run their course.
aww bless you. Its really hard sometimes when life goes in a different direction, i have a few friends that this has happened with too. I guess sometimes if you lead a pretty hectic lifestyle then sometimes something has to give and unfortunately its usually time with friends.
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